A Secret to Success as a Working Mom: Turn Burn Out Into Bliss and Embrace Joy

Last weekend my youngest was committed to going to the "Water Steps" a man-made water fall in Pittsburgh by the rivers. (Fun Fact: Three rivers converge in Pittsburgh--The Ohio River, The Monongahela River, and the Allegheny River.)  He kept asking. I knew he was serious when he said, "If you won't take me, I'll ask  daddy!" Given that it was highly unlikely that would happen on an unscheduled day, I relented. So, we went. It wasn’t planned in the way most things in my life are. No calendar block. No checklist. No “productive” purpose attached. And, so in some respects it was uncomfortable. And yet, it seemed necessary. It was the idea of my 8-year-old—offered with the kind of urgency only children possess when something is profoundly important to them.

Girls Know the Truth, But They Don't Always Care...


Last weekend, like many Americans, I saw “He’s Just Not That Into You”. It reminded me of the many times in my life when I’ve gotten it wrong. Indeed, last year I spent too much time involved with someone who was as complicated as he was intense. I willingly allowed myself to be duped. I wasn't mislead. I made a decision.

Throughout our interactions, I knew intuitively that he wasn’t that into me. He wanted me, but not to the extent that wanted. I knew that his declarations of love were mainly admissions of confusion. I understood on a very fundamental level that his distance was intentional. Girls know the truth. I knew the truth. However, I simply didn’t care. I was into him and for a while that was the only thing that mattered.

Eventually, if we’re lucky, what we truly want begins to matter more. Fortunately, I was lucky. And, I made some changes...

Watching the movie reminded me of the times when I have gotten it right--when what I wanted and what the guy wanted were aligned. Perhaps this Valentine’s Day I’ll get the opportunity to get it right again. Here’s hoping!
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