Friday

Balance May Eternally Elude Working Moms, And That's OK

Me with my favorite guy trying to stay balanced...
Because I have this blog and because I cannot help myself from talking to strangers, I am often involved in conversations about whether or not balance is possible. It’s an interesting question and not one that is limited to working moms. Quite frankly everybody who has to work to make a living is plagued with the question about how much am I willing to work in order to achieve my personal goals.


Indeed, I recently realized that I have been plagued by this balance question since I was in high school. In high school, I wanted to be a cheerleader, run track, take advanced classes, participate in service club, teach Sunday School, and perform in school productions—among other things. I didn’t pursue these things because I was trying to pad my résumé or trying to gain entry to the elite college where I ultimately attended. I pursued these things because there was something within me that actually wanted to be a part of school activities and contribute to my community.

Being a bit of an overachiever for my entire life doing too much has been ingrained in me. And that personality trait puts me in a perpetual state of imbalance.

Becoming a professional did not make the quest for balance any easier. I pursued a career where long hours were expected and required. Becoming a mom (times 2) made me passionate about the challenges affecting other working women and that passion turned into a business. While I remain committed to pursuing a life that works for me, I am also becoming keenly aware that being a working mom hasn’t created my balance problem—being an overachiever has.

It Helps Me To Know that Other Moms Struggle With Balance As Well


Below is a link to an article about another overachieving working mom who has been much more successful that I have been and has even more kids, Soledad O’Brien. If you read the comments below her article you’ll see that many are critical of what they perceive is her glib way of describing her quest for balance. 

Although, I agree that the success she has experienced makes her journey easier, I believe there are lessons for all of us in her story. She asks working moms to "identify what you value and what you want to achieve." If we become more clear about our goals, we can make conscious choices. Although making conscious choices may not make you more balanced, it should give you more satisfaction about those choices.


Here’s a link to the article, “Soledad O’Brien Nails The Absurdity Of ‘Work/Life Balance’”.

Enjoy!!!
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