One Secret to Success for a Working Mom, Expand Your Village (Jack and Jill of America)

Jack and Jill of America member and her daughter Recently, I have become keenly aware that good kids are created by accident. They become good because someone made a concerted effort to pour positive things into them--things like, honor, discipline and respect for others. These qualities are taught through lessons and by observation. For that reason, I have been actively considering how to give my children more examples of people who embody those qualities.  Indeed, raising my children to become good people is my most important job.

Working moms sometimes have to shake off negative thoughts and comments



"Haters wanna hate... You just have to shake it off!" Taylor Swift

I don't often quote Taylor Swift on this blog because she's not a mom and her music isn't something that necessarily resonates with my readers. However, several years ago, I listened to "Shake It Off" every day for like a year. Our daughter loved the song and it made getting ready for the day much easier, so why not listen to it, right?! And please, my "woke" friends and family, don't write to me about Taylor's alleged cultural insensitivity and other issues. Y'all were not volunteering to come to my house and help me manage the morning routine!

When People Insult You, Pretend Like You are Made of Teflon


I quote Taylor today though because her song inspired me yesterday. I met my day hearing some insulting comments made about me in my professional capacity. Although they didn't ruin my day, they did make me reflect. They made me grateful that I have a support system outside of my office that both grounds me and lifts me up. They made me grateful that I work with people who value my contributions and respect me. They made me grateful for so many of my blessings because the person who said them is in a rather tight spot. They also reminded me not to take anything personally that is done by other people. I learned this several years ago by reading The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz. (That book is life changing--seriously.)

This morning I was reminded of the importance of keeping perspective. The sun came out this morning. The Today Show was on. And water was still wet. My point is, nothing is permanent. So, don't let anything get you down for long. And if a hater appears and insults you, you got to remember to "SHAKE IT OFF"! (I'm doing a shimmy right now for effect!)

And although I hope to have a smooth sailing 2019, I am grateful for this reminder at the beginning of the year.




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