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A Peek Into the Life of a Working Mom: Plan for Valentine's Day. Date Night Matters.

Andre and I at Nola on date night

Andre and I have been fortunate enough to go on a date two out of the last three weekends. The first weekend we went out to celebrate his birthday. We had dinner, heard live music, and went to a club afterwards. Last weekend, we attended an arts event and met up with my brother and his girlfriend. We had a great time and it was fun to get out without the kids!


Single people or childless couples may not understand why this is blog worthy. However, all parents understand that keeping a house, raising a family and sleeping can monopolize all of your time. And when both parents work full time outside of the home, working, preparing for work and commuting to work can make you too tired to do much else. And before you know it, it's been a year since you and your spouse have had alone time while awake.

Photos from an event last weekend 
Sometimes A Girl's Got to Have Fun With Her Man

I understand all of the excuses for not getting out. Getting a babysitter is expensive. You would prefer to stay go to bed because you need the rest. It's expensive to go out. All of those things are true, but unrelated to the core issue. You need to get out of the house with your spouse and do something that has nothing to do with the kids to remind you of how the whole party got started. If you don't, you may think that it is all about the kids. And while they are wonderful, magical, and completely fascinating, you cannot allow them to consume you. 

A mom's attempt at style
There's also the work associated with raising a family a managing a household.  Parenting is exhausting and time consuming. If you're not careful, you and your spouse can become ships passing in the night primarily negotiating who is going to pick up the kids, pick up the laundry and pick up the kids. There's a lot of picking up that's required on this parenting journey. That is why you might be craving a nap more than anything in the world. 


Date Night Matters, Make Time For It


I get it. But resist the urge to becoming the kind of couple who cannot remember the last time they were out together. Value your couple time as much as you value your sleep. Make time for it. Prepare for it (get a sitter, make plans, shave your legs, do your hair, and get dressed like you did when you were single). Cherish it. Your relationship will be better for it. 

Valentine's Day is just ten days away. It's a great excuse for a date night. Who knows after that night, you might get your groove back! Just don't get pregnant, unless of course  you want to!

Below is a list of twenty date night ideas. They range from the romantic to the mundane. Still, even getting your oil change can be fun if you're doing it with the right guy!


Twenty Date Night Ideas

  1. Drinks
  2. Dinner
  3. Clubbing/Dancing
  4. Lunch
  5. Movies in the park
  6. Festivals
  7. A walk
  8. Going to gym
  9. Grocery shopping
  10. Coffee
  11. Hotel Room for the day
  12. Weekend Trip
  13. Vacation
  14. Oil change
  15. Dinner at home
  16. Breakfast
  17. Picnic
  18. Spa trip
  19. Play
  20. Non-profit event
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