A Secret to Success This New Year: Become Committed and Resilient

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Mom and son celebrating the new year in the Bahamas in 2025! "Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." – Confucius Greetings from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania ! Things have been busy. I am still a working mom of three , working full time who is trying to make a difference. I do a lot of things and try to be present so that I can learn from them. I share them on this blog so that we can learn together. Below are some thoughts, hacks, and/or lessons that I have learned from navigating my world. 2025 was intense. I faced a convergence of pressures: the stress of navigating life as a single mom while paying considerable  alimony ,  an intensifying family situation since we lost my beloved aunt, my dad, and my cousin’s mom—work related stress—learning a new job after an imposed job change, all while navigating the rapid pace of raising my kids and trying to maintain a standard of living for them with fewer resources. Together, these factor...
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Discovering what it all really means...

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Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through.
Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is
a kind of death. --Anais Nin

The amazing thing about life is that if you are open to it, adventures teach you amazing things.

In July, I wrote about my adventure in San Francisco. People have read lots of things into what I meant by that entry. However, what happened isn’t as important as the lesson. San Francisco taught me to accept life as it comes and to be present in the moment. Unfortunately, I have been unfaithful to the San Francisco lesson.

I have fallen back into over analyzing situations. Truthfully, I spend more time in my head than I do interacting with those around me. It is hard to be completely engaged when you’re looking for the next blog entry. It is as if you are an observer in your own life.

I cannot blame the blog though. I started it because I was already distracted. Recently, I have realized that there is a price to pay by being an observer and not a full participant in my life. It has cost me. I sometimes make those with whom I spend time feel less than special. I have damaged relationships and alienated friends simply because I failed to really show up.

Upon reflection, my trip to San Francisco in July was eye opening, but it wasn't life changing. My life changing moments remain ahead of me. My life won't truly change until I begin living with the same intensity and passion that I expend in thinking about my life. Hopefully, that day will come soon.

In the meantime, I'll have to remind myself to live in the moment. Hopefully, the blog won't suffer... :-)
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Anonymous said…
Hey Chaton,

Great post! I had a learning experience in San Francisco as well - basically placed a bet on a street performer's trick and later realised it was a con job. So I learnt to be street smart the hard, expensive way!

And I fully understand how a blog can take over your life... I've become a little obsessed over my blog as well. Thanks for leaving a comment on my post Celebrate The Single Life at Ezine Articles, by the way.

Keep going on your great blog. I'll put you on my blogroll and come back to visit soon!

Daphne
10:55 AM
Nuno Cabeçadas said…
The blog will improve at the same pace as your life experiences. I'm sure when you forget a little your blog to live new experiences and feel something new, the next time you write will be better than everything you wrote before.

Being a foreigner, I don't know if what I just wrote make sense to you, but you an be sure that I understood what you want to say.

Kisses
11:06 AM
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