Easter Reminded Me of the Miracles That Are My Children

Greetings from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania! Things have been busy. I am still a working mom of three, working full time who is trying to make a difference. I do a lot of things and try to be present so that I can learn from them. I share them on this blog so that we can learn together. Below are some thoughts, hacks, and/or lessons that I have learned from navigating my world. Below is a tale of my road to becoming the mother of three. It was a road filled with joys and disappointments. However, I wouldn't giving nothing for my journey now. Here's to embracing every step of the journey, even the painful ones, and embracing the lessons learned along the way.

Apparently, I live in “Cougar Town”…


The other night I watched Courtney Cox’s new show “Cougar Town”. A “cougar” is a middle aged woman who is on the prowl and tends to date much younger men. The show stays the course. Courtney plays a forty year old divorcée who is scared to be alone and is searching for love. In the first episode she takes home a guy who is in his twenties and gets to “know” him.

The show is full of clichés about the plight of older women on the dating market, middle aged men who are only interested in dating younger women, and how older women are always on the prowl. The show may only last one season, but the topic is intriguing.

Demi Moore Has Shown Women that Dating Younger Men is Possible


Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher inspire women around the globe. Even though she is nearly old enough to be his mother they are married; he is hot; and they look really happy. The appearance of love tends to quiet the critics.

I don’t have to look at celebrities to understand. Two of the happiest married women that I know are married to younger men. Also, several of my single friends have aged well. When they go out they attract men who are from 25-50. I am no different. I have dated men who could be my father and those who have been quite a bit younger. One of the beauties of being in your thirties is that you can go either way.



I have never bought into stereotypes though. I date who I like. I acknowledge that when my actions fit squarely into a stereotype I draw attention and comment. However, I don’t like when people minimize my relationships by reducing them to a cliché. Accordingly, I objected to people calling my rich, older boyfriend my “Sugar Daddy” as much as I have resented people assuming that I am dating a younger man because he can bounce quarters off of his abs.

Since I have been happy with my decisions, I have endured the chiding. I blush when accused of engaging in certain activities. And, I politely decline to answer nosey questions.

I understand why people comment though. Being happy tends to draw attention.

Th truth is, dating has been the same for me since I was eighteen. A guy was attracted to me. He acted on it. I said "yes". And the relationship took off from there. I am no more on the prowl now than I was then.

That being said, I’ll continue to watch “Cougar Town”. At the end of the day, she is looking for love. And that is something that I can identify with.

http://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/2012/04/18/demi-moore-steps-out-for-first-time-since-post-kutcher-split-rehab/



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