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Sometimes Working Moms Who Lean In Get Pushed Back

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On top of the highest building between Chicago and New York Referring to leaning in, "[s]ometimes that s- -t doesn't work." -Michelle Obama Michelle Obama made a comment on her book tour that shook up the internet. She said out loud that leaning in doesn't always work for working moms. Her language was more colorful, which is part of the reason people were shook up. (To read what she said, please review the links below.) However, the notion that one of the most powerful women in the world would publicly acknowledge that hard work alone wouldn't result in automatic success was a bold statement.

Working Mom Tips: Ten Things that Every Working Mom Needs

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DAVOS/SWITZERLAND, 28JAN11 - Sheryl Sandberg, Chief Operating Officer, Facebook, USA; by Jolanda Flubacher (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) Motherhood is harder than it needs to be. This is partially because of the inexcusable work/life policies in the U.S., but also because of our own outsized expectations. We are living in an age when the ideal mom is a mash-up between the helicopter mom, the corporate exec, and the earth mama — and there's just not enough high-efficiency, low-emissions biofuel to go around. –Elissa Strauss, Why I don't want 'mom friends' Moms with young children in the United States have a lot of competing pressures. The challenge for the working mom is even more intense. The primary goals for working moms are to succeed at work and at home. Those goals are not necessarily in conflict. However, succeeding at each of them at the same time is damn hard. Part of the problem is that both work and motherhood have changed immensely. The e

Reading on the Run: Articles of Interest to Working Moms (Working, But Not Leaning In)

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A working mom and daughter As I wrote earlier in the week, some friends of mine are being featured in a new Reality TV show about their lives called, " Love Thy Sister ". The show, which premiered on Thursday is a refreshing view about the joys and challenges of family. Each of the women is a mom. And each has her own approach to motherhood.  While they are embarking on a new entrepreneurial venture, each of them is a hands on mom and has allowed motherhood to become her primary responsibility while her kids are young. It got me thinking about how this traditional, yet modern, approach to motherhood plays out for a variety of women in an age where Sheryl Sandberg and others place great pressures on working mothers to "lean in" to their careers. If you are a working mom. I give you permission not to lean in, unless you want to.

Reading on the Run: Articles of Interest to Working Moms (Happy Friday-#TGIF)

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  English: An artist's depiction of the rat race in reference to the work and life balance. See http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rat_race Made with following images: http://www.openclipart.org/detail/75385 http://www.openclipart.org/detail/74137 (Photo credit: Wikipedia )     Successful working women keep track of important matters in the news. However, we are not one-dimensional. Some of us also want to keep up with celebrity gossip and fashion news too. Even in the era of the Internet and 24 hour news shows and E! it can be challenging to keep up with everything. Fortunately for you, I make it my job to keep up on articles of interest to working moms and when I find notable ones, I share them with you. Below are three that sparked my interest. They concern self-care, creating a true collaborative relationship between working moms and employers (our interests are really aligned), and the hardworking mom that is often overlooked in the balance discussions

Reading on the Run: Articles of Interest to Working Moms

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English: An artist's depiction of the rat race in reference to the work and life balance. See http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rat_race Made with following images: http://www.openclipart.org/detail/75385 http://www.openclipart.org/detail/74137 (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) Successful working women keep track of important matters in the news. However, we are not one-dimensional. Some of us also want to keep up with celebrity gossip and fashion news too. Even in the era of the Internet and 24 hour news shows and E! it can be challenging to keep up with everything. Fortunately for you, I make it my job to keep up on articles of interest to working moms and when I find notable ones, I share them with you. Below are three that sparked my interest.    Articles of Interest to Working Moms  " Why You Should Hire a Mom "    This article discusses the benefits of hiring mothers, which are numerous.  It makes the case for why companies should hire moms and develop policies

Working Moms, Overwhelmed and Dreaming of Hitting the Lottery (#WorkingMom)

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I was watching “Jeopardy” the other night and heard Alex Trebeck ask, “Have you ever just wanted to get away from it all?” It was the introduction for a contest that they are running, but it got me thinking about me and my sister working moms. I venture to say that many of us, Sheryl Sandberg and Marissa Mayer excluded, want to get away from it all, a lot! A lot of us have failed to structure our lives in such a way that they are really working for us. Yes, we go to work, collect our paycheck and raise our children, without losing our minds. However, we feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and constantly pressed for time. We view weekends as our reward for a working hard all week and we drown our sorrows in wine and dark chocolate. Occasionally, we may even buy a lottery ticket as a way to dream about a different type of life. Our vacations give us a glimpse into what that life might be like. We can live the type of lives that we choose to live. What if instead of dreaming about a d

Getting to 50/50: How Working Parents Can Have It All (Book Tour)

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(I received two books as part of this book tour.)   I had the honor of being asked to participate in a virtual book tour for Getting to 50/50: How Working Parents Can Have It All , by Joanna Meers and Sharon Strober.   This book is all about trying to help working mothers make decisions to improve their effectiveness at work and at home. So, I was excited when I was asked to participate in this tour. The premise of the book is that if women can equally divide household duties they can remain employed full-time, raise their children and achieve happiness. Marry the Right Man, Have the Right Life  

Reading on the Run: Topics of Interest to Working Moms

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Being a working mom is hard work. I’ve devoted this blog to discussing the topic and there are lots of other commentators speaking about this topic. Recently, there have been some articles that discuss the challenges of dealing with the pressures of working full-time and raising a family. Interestingly, writers have had divergent thoughts about on the topic. Several months ago Sheryl Sandberg asked working women to "lean in" to success and commit to having it all. Lately some women have written about why they don't believe in leaning in, others are lobbying for flexible work and still others are trying to teach women how to stress less at work.   From my perspective, women are just starting to understand what true choice is about. Working moms should have choices between whether to stay-at-home and whether to work. However, the discussion of working is complex. As a full-time working mom I can tell you that this journey is filled with landmines--compromise and guil

Upcoming Television Appearance: Working Mothers Who Want to "Opt Back In" to the Workforce

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Earlier this month, the New York Times ran an article that profiled working mothers who had “opted out” of the workforce to raise their children and now would like to return.  The article described the challenges they face attempting to return to the workforce and the regret they have about having opted out in the first place. The article also discusses the challenges experienced by working women who gallantly attempt to “have it all” even when there is little institutional support for them to try to make working and mothering work and great pressure to get women who can afford to stay home financially to “do what is best for their children”. Lost in the argument about what is best for the children is what may be best for the mother, long term.   Shouldn't be a part of the discussion?   Working Full-Time and Raising Children Can be Overwhelming   It's a very rich topic. As a fulltime working mom, I don't question why some women choose to quit their job

Reading on the Run: How to Be Happy in Love and Marriage

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In 2012, the Wall Street Journal ran a series of articles designed to help people succeed in love and marriage or at the very least be able to identify when their relationship was in trouble.   For the benefit of all of us they ran an article at the end of 2012 entitled, “ How to Be Happy in Love and Marriage in 2013” that compiles all of the articles for your convenience. Here’s a link to the article, http://blogs.wsj.com/juggle/2012/12/27/how-to-be-happy-in-love-and-marriage-in-2013/ . Apparently nagging can destroy relationships. There’s one article listed entitled, “ Meet the Marriage Killer ”, which discusses the destructive effects that nagging can have on a relationship. The article asserts that it is more common than adultery and potentially as toxic. How is that for provocative?! Seeing how we all tend to take great efforts not to sleep with other people (or at least we should) because of the damage it would cause to our relationships, why do many of us frequently na

Mommy Mondays: Many women are doing it all, but are they happy???

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I began Monday morning like many working mothers--exhausted and questioning where the weekend went. As working mothers we have two full time jobs. We are professionals and mothers. We have to manage their careers and manage our households. Two full time jobs requires a great deal of energy and involves compromise.   Often women leave the work force because they simply cannot figure out how to "have it all" and maintain their sanity. In my experience from talking with women the lack of supportive work environments cause them to leave the workforce because doing it all becomes too hard.  And from personal experience, on Monday mornings it is damned hard especially when I'm tired and leave my daughter with a smile on her face after she asks me for a hug because she wants just one moe moment with mommy...   Many women are doing it all, but do they like it??? Given that something like over 60% of mothers work, people aren't asking the question about "c

READING ON THE RUN: Articles of Interest to Moms and Working Women (Folks Are Still Taking about Sheryl Sandberg)

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This past week working mothers were in the news once again. The Today Show , The Katie Show, The NBC Nightly News , and many others were featuring stories about what happens when work and life collide. Also, most newspapers, magazines and many blogs discussed the topic and continued to discuss Sheryl Sandberg 's new book, Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead.    The debate was punctuated by Erin Callan's op-ed in the New York Times last Sunday where she blamed her focus on her career with her fertility problems.    Articles of Interest to Moms and Working Women Here are a list of some of the articles that were published this week! Is There Life After Work? New York Times ‎- 6 days ago Each year that went by, slight modifications became the new normal. ... But I can't make up for lost time . Working Moms from Tajikistan to the Czech Republic: 'I Took a Lot of ... What it's like to be a mother with a job in a difficult country

Mommy Mondays: Is it Time to "Lean In"?

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The past few weeks have been an exciting time for working women. From Marissa Mayer banning Yahoo  employees from telecommuting to Sheryl Sandberg telling professional women that they would achieve more if they simply "stopped leaning back and leaned in".   To be fair, I have tended to take the opportunities that have come to me and worried about the consequences later. I have also interviewed for promotions, been promoted since I've been back from maternity leave, and became an adjunct law professor while I was on maternity leave. So, I suppose I could be accused of having leaned in.    Employers need to implement policies that support parents.   However, despite my own extremely modest successes (I am still waiting for my $1 million, forget $500 million) I am passionate about changing the workplace to make it more accommodating for parents. I believe that the workplace needs to change more than women do. I also believe that too many women are forced from

Happy International Women's Day: Let's Celebrate Women!

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Even though I've had some posts lately criticizing high profile women like Marissa Mayer and Sheryl Sandberg , I remain a huge fan of women and believe that International Women's Day is a great time to acknowledge our accomplishments.   International Women's Day is a Time to Celebrate!   Do we have a lot of progress to make in workplace equality, pay equity and acknowledgement of the contributions of mothers?  Absolutely. However, have we come a long way? You betcha baby! Here's a link to a prior post that discusses this remarkable day, and the many challenges that women face, in more detail, Chaton's World: A Mom's Quest for Balance in Stilettos: International Women's Day: Let's Celebrate Women!   (It would be really great if this time next year, America makes this a national holiday...) ENJOY! Related articles Happy International Women's Day Happy International Women's Day Today is International Women's Day Internat

READING ON THE RUN: Articles of Interest to Moms and Working Women

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Sheryl Sandberg (Photo credit: jdlasica ) This week there have been a lot of articles in the news that discuss the challenges facing working moms. Also, a lot of journalists have been discussing Sheryl Sandberg 's new book, Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead.  Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Lead The book has been described as one journalist as, “A forthright, if often confused, meditation on sexism, the book has attracted more than its share of prepublication hostility from people resentful that a Silicon Valley überfemale worth $500 million would dare to address the problems of Everywoman. I don’t think anyone actually used the words “back to your palace, bitch,” but that’s been the tenor of the criticism, which has often come from women who had not done Sandberg the elementary courtesy of reading the book they claimed to hate.” I am one of those who have not read the book. However, I don’t hate Sandberg. However, I do resent her suggestio

Twitter Tuesday: Interesting Women on Twitter

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You know that I am fascinated by the accomplished women on reality TV like Bethenny Frankel and Kris Jenner .   Well, I am also fascinated by accomplished women in business. And I am always excited when I find these women on Twitter. Below are some that are worth following!

Wednesday Words of Wisdom: Work/Life Balance is Elusive for Parents and Singles

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"If you neglect to recharge a battery, it dies. And if you run full-speed ahead without stopping  for water, you lose momentum to finish the race." -- Oprah Winfrey As a working mother I understand why the challenges of working parents attaining work/life balance is a popular topic for bloggers and journalists. Since having my daughter twenty months ago I can tell you that I have yet to get ahead of my housework or even get caught up on it.   I remain a work in progress, trying to be the best mom that I can be without drowning in the sea of toys, obligations and responsibilities that I call my life. Admittedly though, balance was challenging for me as a single person too, especially when I worked at a law firm .  The work pressures as an associate in a major firm were enormous. I was often overworked and exhausted. And when my work was not as plentiful I worried about not meeting my billable hour requirements. It was a never-ending cycle. “The law is a jealou