Friday, May 22, 2015

A Peek Into The Life of a Working Mom: Five Reasons I Work As Explained to My Daughter

Four Year Old With an Umbrella
My daughter is a precocious four year old. She is in tune with herself and the world around her. Accordingly, she has begun to ask questions like, “Mommy why do you go to work?” Although I publicly lament many things about my life in Corporate America on this blog, I do not share those thoughts with her. I don’t tell her that I work because “I have to” and I don’t tell her that he antiquated resistance of Corporate America to flexible work means that I am away from her for longer than I really need to be each day.  She’ll learn about all of that soon enough.

Instead, I want her to focus on the positive aspects of working. So, I appeal to things that she knows and likes.

1.       Response #1: I work to afford groceries.
·         Her Translation: Wow, I wouldn’t have any fruit snacks or treats if mommy didn’t work. The horror!

2.       Response #2: I like to get dressed up and to interact with my colleagues.
·         Her Translation: I get to wear fancy clothes hang out with my friends. That’s up her alley.

3.       Response#3: I sometimes get to go out to lunch.
·         Her Translation: I get to go to restaurants and order whatever I want. She thinks this is pretty cool.

4.       Response #4: I get to attend meetings and learn about interesting things. Here’s something I brought back for you.
·         Her Translation: When I grow up, I want to go to work so that I can go to parties meetings and get a gift bag even when it’s not someone’s birthday.

5.       Response #5: I work so that we can afford to go on vacations.
·         Her Translation: I LOVE that mommy goes to work because that means that I get to go on vacation and stay in the hotel, get room service, and play on the beach.

As you can see, to my daughter, my work is all about food, fun, friends, and fancy clothes. To tell you the truth, her impression is not much different than mine was while I watched Ally McBeal before becoming an attorney. And while my reality as an attorney includes the good, the bad and the ugly, for now, I’ll let her keep believing as she does. There are worse things she could be thinking!

Wednesday, May 20, 2015

Wordless Wednesday (the beach)

Made a little vacation out of my cousin's wedding in Destin, Florida.  It was great! Here are some photos:

Friday, May 15, 2015

A Peek Into the Life of a Working Mom: Comments about "What Black Moms Know"

At my daughter's school's open house

Sometimes people think that I am whining about the challenges that working moms experience today. Some infer that the problems of the middle class don’t really amount to much when there are mothers who are struggling to put food on the table. The critics have a point, but that does not mean that the challenges of professional working women are insignificant.

The truth is, I work in the career I was trained for. I work really hard. And I love my children with every fiber of my being. This reality makes me grateful and conflicted.

Wednesday, May 13, 2015

Wordless Wednesday (Spring Time)

One of the best thing about Spring is that the nights are longer. For working moms who often get off work after 5:00 PM having more sunshine after work is a great gift that allows us to spend extra time with our kids. 

Here is a photo that shows how we spend our Spring nights!

Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Working Mom Comments: John Oliver Realizes that it's Hard to be a Working Mom in America

English: Graph of Maternity Leave in Americas
English: Graph of Maternity Leave in Americas (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
If I weren’t already married, I’d be trying to date John Oliver. He gets it. He captured the plight of the American working woman on his recent show entitled, “Why It Sucks To Be A Working Mother In America”. He pointed out how schizophrenic the country is. On the one hand we extol the virtues of motherhood while we simultaneously fail to support mothers. We say that nothing is more important than family and fail to pass family/friendly legislation and most companies are reluctant to establish family/friendly policies. Everyone loves babies yet many hate social programs.

Monday, May 11, 2015

My Second Birth Taught Me The Depths of My Love #MothersDay

Baby with first signs of eye infection

With the Internet flooded with "Mommy Blogs", there is no shortage of women writing about what being a mom means to them. These women gush about motherhood and describe how it is the hardest yet most rewarding job on earth. And they are right.

Still there is room for more stories. Motherhood is a similar journey, but every story is unique. Last year, I became a mom for the second time. And that experience taught me what I am made of...