Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Working Mom Confession: You're Not Failing, You're Thriving

Me with my kids one day
From a statistical perspective, "women now make up half of all workers in the United States, with nearly 4 in 10 homes having a mom that is also a working mother." From a practical perspective, that means that a lot of mothers have a lot on their shoulders and are questioning their performance.

Many working moms are perfectionists. Even when we fall short, we tend to believe in a perfect working mom ideal. We believe that there is a working mom out there who always has her s- -t together. We may have even seen her at meetings. She likely has perfect hair, designer clothes and shoes without scuffs in them, never fights with her husband, has perfect kids, and manages to get out of the door every day without any stress. We compare themselves to that ideal and because in our heart of hearts, we believe that it exists. And we are putting more effort into the working mom thing than we have put into anything in our lives—this includes our Girl Scout Badges, our SATs and our college careers.

Friday, February 17, 2017

Comments from a Working Mom: Why Beyoncé's Performance at the Grammy’s Mattered

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I missed the Grammy's because I was traveling. However, I have heard all about it via social media. Here's what I have heard. Working moms were the focus of the show. Adele had a pitch problem. And Beyoncé sang in her pregnant glory. She also allowed herself to be tilted back in a chair that inspired a meme that read, "I wish that I trusted anything as much as Beyoncé trusted that chair…" Yo B, I get your commitment to your art, but be safe!

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

Wordless Wednesday: The Magic of Disney

I think my son has a thing for Snow White...

Last week I attended the Disney Social Media Moms Celebration. It's an invitation only conference that I have had the honor of attending twice. (For more information about the conference, click here.) And it was AWESOME!!! There will be other posts explaining why the conference rocks, extolling how Disney is the most magical place on earth, and the unexpected events that made the trip unforgettable. In the meantime, enjoy these few photos. And if you're curious, ask me why my son isn't wearing any pants in the above photo--I dare you!

Friday, February 10, 2017

Working Mom Tip: How to Get Out of the Door Without Tears Each Day

A smile, the goal every morning

As you know, I work full-time as an attorney. I have done this the entire time I've been a mom. I actually worked right up until I delivered my kids. My colleagues and I are lucky I didn't deliver at my desk! So, I have been in the trenches. And, I have learned a great deal. One thing I have learned from comments to my blog and coaching is that many working moms--even those who "have it together"--struggle to get out of the door each day.

Monday, February 06, 2017

A Little Good News: I Got a Sprinkle of Pixie Dust From Disney #DisneySMMC

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To all who come to this happy place: Welcome. Disneyland is your land. Here age relives fond memories of the past, and here youth may savor the challenge and promise of the future. Disneyland is dedicated to the ideals, the dreams, and the hard facts that have created America, with the hope that it will be a source of joy and inspiration to all the world.
— Walter E. Disney, July 17, 1955[5][6][7][8]

Our country has been divided since the election last fall. And since President Trump's inauguration, Facebook has been flooded with comments about the controversial things that have happened. Like all of you, I have been thinking, lamenting, ad discussing really heavy things lately. I have no great insight. The quote above from Walt Disney is a reminder that America is the product of people who have believed in its promise and have united to create a better life. In a word, life is a gift. Each day that we are blessed with life we should celebrate anyway. And I have some really cool things to celebrate!